Our three. Lost in being little. Just as it should be…
How much do our kids need to know? A Waldorf mother’s group I am a part of was recently given an article to read on and discuss about this very topic, and it has started a louder conversation within myself as a mom, broadening and shifting some of my way of thinking. Does more information help our kids garner more empathy as they make their way towards adulthood? Does knowledge equal power, for a five year old? How much it too much information for kids to have? These are big questions. I am not saying there’s a right or wrong answer here, as each of our families are considerably different, but I think it’s worth asking no matter your parenting style.
How much do our kids need to know?
Andrew and I personally encourage our kid’s curiosities while fostering transparent relationship with our kids, but we are both realizing more and more (probably because we have an almost seven year old!) that these early years are wildly precious, and the only times in their existence that they will live with this amount of innocence, imagination, and wonder. I mean once you know, you can’t unknow, ya know?
But it’s so hard today, especially when staying home with them and wanting to keep informed with all that continues to go on all over the world. When as parents do we talk about all these important grown up things, when they are in bed? At the dinner table? In the car? Never? When they are on our hips and near our side, following us around like little goslings, how do we safeguard them against a never-ending message from media and others that the world is downright a bad and scary place? I do not want that for them right now, nor ever. I want to celebrate their dream-like way of thinking and preserve innocent selves, and so does that make me privileged? These are things I think about and just want to tap into here with y’all.
I guess what it boils down to, is that Andrew and I want our kids to know and believe that the world and the people in it ARE GOOD. That kindness, honesty, and vulnerability are traits of a strong, open-hearted person, and that acting out of a place of fear with a scarce mentality does not breed compassion, but just more fear. As a mother I want to instill in them a deep and curious love for their one beautiful life, not not inadvertently cover them with a cloak of fear well before they have the tools or mature age of discernment to navigate such tension in the world. Goodness, it’s hard enough for me! I’d love to hear how your family is going about all of this right now? How much do our kids need to know?
Here is the full article for those who are interested, and I would love to hear more about how your family is navigating these important parenting dilemmas and questions? As if being a mom couldn’t be any harder!
*Note: I did not author this article nor do I agree with everything in it. I do however feel it raises several interesting points worth discussing, especially given that we have chosen a Waldorf curriculum for our family. Anyway, there’s more about this discussion on Instagram if you feel like reading some various response to this from other mothers. I don’t have the answers, but I do love and appreciate that we can share our experiences in a way that lifts one another up and encourages thoughtful discussion!