Hello dear friends, I hope you are enjoying your day so far. So I’ve been quite immersed in a new (to me) audio book lately and am giddy to share it with you this week. I started it like I do most other audiobooks, either while multitasking in the kitchen or spending time in the car, but this one made me stop in my tracks right away and run up our creaky stairs to grab my moleskin. For those of you who have not read or listened to The Wisdom of Sundays, you are in for quite a treat! I do recommend getting the audio or paper version for yourself to get the most out of this post, and I hope that doesn’t inconvenience anyone! It’s worth your while, I promise.
This book is a carefully curated selection of life-changing insights from Super-Soul conversations hosted by Oprah, and not to be too dramatic or anything, but it’s going to change your life. There is so much I want to touch on today, but because we are wrapping up our last week of our Rest Retreat together, I will focus on the part that I feel is most important—a concept I outlined months back while sitting in the light-filled corner of our kitchen detailing this journey we are now on. Let’s talk about intention.
JOURNAL: When you read or hear the word intention, what comes to mind? What do you think it means to set or craft an intention? Is this something you’ve ever done throughout the course of your life? Reflect on these questions for a bit. This word is going to guide us, friends.
The chapter (Four) of the book I am going to be referring to throughout this post is a conversation between Gary Zukav, author of The Seat of the Soul, and Oprah, creator of all things good. He talks about intention in a way I’ve never heard articulated before, and it resonates so deeply with me. I have always believed that a divine thread connects everything, and that the energy we put out into the world matters. Listening to this conversation was a light-filled homecoming for me, and just one more way God and the mysteries of the universe have graced me with wonder this month. I think opening up our dialogue to the ideas of making intentional intentions is an empowering and powerful way to end our time together on this retreat of true life-giving rest.
Gary shares that an intention is: our consciousness, and powerful energy behind our motivations we create in life. We can either choose positive and loving intentions, or negative and fear-based ones. Our mentality and the condition of our mind affects our abilities to do this, and it matters greatly if we are someone who sees the world for its abundance vs. someone who seeds the world for its scarcity.
Andrew and I talk all the time about the beauty and power of living abundantly, which is not the same as living extravagantly in materialistic measures or out of our means, but rather, seeing the world though a lens of open-heartedness and gratitude. Abundant living is the opposite of living with a scarce mentality, which is a narrow view of the world fuel by our fears. Our culture is so saturated with fear right now, it’s everywhere I turn, and because of this it’s easy to fall into the trap that there’s not enough to go around, but that’s not true. There is no bottom line or end reserve for virtues like kindness, trust, vulnerability, honesty, empathy, and love. Fear wants us to believe otherwise, and that why so many of us make the poor decisions we do. But the good news is we have a choice, and each one of us (no matter our circumstances) gets to wield that authentic power. The power of choice is at the heart of this divine conversation, and that’s why this act is so empowering as each of us moving forward as we learn to trust our path. The clip below is a snippet of Super Soul Sunday with both Gary and Oprah. This is only part of the 30 minute conversation they have in the book, but it’s worth watching.
Now that you’ve watched a clip of this Super Soul section, JOURNAL your initial reaction to it and any questions you may have. This new concept of intention can be a lot to process, what do you feel it stirring up inside you? How does this video compliment, enlighten, confuse, or challenge initial views you held for the concept of intention?
There is another part of the book I want to share more about with you, and it talks about levels and layers of our intentions, one of them being “out-tensions” vs. “in-tentions”. An “out-tention” is the first layer of intention that you are projecting externally. This energy serves the exterior version of you, the self that others see, and the one detached from the soul. I came up with a few examples of “out-tentions” that some of us may be carrying, and then wrote next to it in italics a possible “intention” one could craft as their motivating energy behind it. Why look at intentions? Because they are the energy behind all that we do, and unless we want to get any sort of result or change in our life, we must evaluate where our energy is coming from. Understand that there could be many different intentions behind these wants or “out-tensions” and this all depends on the mindset, personality, meaning behind its’ creator, but we carry them nevertheless:
- I want to spend less time looking at screens during my day. I want to spend more time with those I love and the work I value.
- I want a home that looks like Pinterest. I want other people to validate my worth through social media.
- I want to have more date nights with my husband. I want to spend more time getting to know and care for my best friend.
- I want to write a book. I want to express myself creatively through the written word and make an impact in other’s lives.
- I want to start waking up early before my kids. I want to carve out more time for solitude and self-care.
- I want to lose weight I gained while pregnant. I want to feel healthier and practice self-care so I have more energy throughout the day and I can better care for those I love.
- I want to travel the world. I want to learn more about the world and help it shape my ideas of happiness and home.
- I want to get a promotion. I want my colleagues to respect me so I feel important.
- I want to get more sleep at night. I want to have more time to shop online.
- I want to live in a clean but creative home. I want to be my best self – I function best in tidy environments that are full of creative opportunities.
These examples of “out-tensions” are examples of things that can consume our thoughts, but they are not the bedrock of our truest motivational energy. They are the first layer we meet when examining our desires and often times, are energies we think we are projecting. But what lies underneath that top layer is our real intention—a powerful energy and life force that can either positively or negatively affect the course of our life. Unlike the majority of life that is out of our control, say the weather or the actions of other people, we get to craft and shape our own intentions, therefore we get to play a part the shaping of our own lives through the energy we manifest. This concept is one of the most thought-provoking ideas I’ve ever reflected on—that each of us is a gifted maker, who holds within the power to create reflecting light and ripples of positive change in the world.
It’s important to understand, that like a spiritual boomerang, whatever intention you put out into the world you will get back. It may not happen in the manner or timeframe you want or expect, but it will find you. If you want a home that looks like Pinterest in the example above, then your deeper intention may be to please others. It may not, I don’t know. But if you intend to please others, than that is what you will do because you’ve set that intention, that strong motivational energy within you, into motion by the value you’ve placed on other people’s reactions to your actions. If instead, you want a home that looks like Pinterest because you find inspiration, comfort, and renewal in the ideas generated by other creatives, your intention will be completely different. In this instance, your intention will be to create a home that feels the way your soul sings. I for one believe that this is a really beautiful and fulfilling pursuit, one completely different than acting out to gain approval of others. It all boils down to intention.
And you may not even be aware that you are creating intentions behind everything that you say, think, feel, and do, but you are. We all are. With every choice and every act, we send our crafted (either intentional or not) energy out into the world, and that energy comes back to us. Some call this Karma, others call it The Golden Rule. You can call it whatever you want, but the bottom line is that we (all of us – you – me- your baby – your husband – your neighbor – your boss – your friend—even Trump) are blessed to be in charge the energies we both send and receive throughout the course of our one wild and precious life. This is what is means to be human, and it is a gift. One of my favorite parts of the podcast episode is when Gary says:
“Choice of intention is a fundamental creative act. Consider that you are powerful, creative, compassionate, and loving spirits. And that you are co-creating your life with the universe right now, and your choice is the choice of intention, so that when you become an aware creator, you become a more powerful creator to use your creative capacity in a loving way. When you’re not aware of your intention, you are creating with fear. You are a powerful creator who can create with an energy (intention) of fear or love.”
Just. So. Good. So when you get something that a fear-based part of your personality wants, you will be happy short-term, but this will not and can not feed your soul—which is ultimately who you really are and are here to discover. Like we talked about in week one of the retreat,
“Alas, your mind is a garden. Your thoughts are the seeds. You can grow flowers, or you can grow weeds.”
It’s up to you to nurture your mind so that you are in a good place to make choices that put loving intentions into the greater energy of the world. I believe this wholeheartedly, and that’s why self-care is not one bit selfish, and it is one of the most important things we can ever give our time to. This is the work of unraveling our soul and discovering our truth, and it matters.
JOURNAL: How does the concept of creating loving intentions change the way you view a difficult situation you are currently facing? How can you use the power of intention moving forward with our without social media as a part of your life or your business? And lastly, if you had to describe your inner truth, your soul, to a dear friend on the listening end of a conversation, what words would you use to do so?
Listening to your soul and then mindfully crafting your intentions around that wise voice sifts your priorities through a sturdy, grace-lined sieve, shaking out all the things you thought you needed to care about and give your time and energy to, leaving behind only precious gems and true treasures, aka: the things that matter. I believe that this act is a spiritual one that leads to more fulfillment and wholehearted living. If only more of us took the time to listen, to be still, and to pay attention to what our souls are telling us behind the layers of our noisy minds and distracted hearts, there would be so much more harmony and compassion in this world. Instead, we often times react like hand on a hot stove to thoughts, ideas, and emotions before pausing a moment to breathe, take stock and, craft a encouraging and loving intention before moving forward.
So how does this all connect to social media? Well, I think it connects to everything because intention is the source of energy we release when doing anything at all. If you have a clear-set intention behind using social media, honor that energy and make your values a priority going forward. Remember your non-negotiables? And if you know you are someone who has an addictive or all-or-nothing personality, take that into consideration when crafting your intention, because that matters, too. And when it comes to taking back time, what I am really talking about is reclaiming your priorities so you can live by your values and intentions. It is about nurturing your whole self in a way that celebrates your life and the life you want to live. This is our true calling my friends, and I am filled with so much gratitude to have another day, another opportunity, to work towards fulfilling this beauty-filled purpose. Below is an article I read this week about the power of our intentions, I think you’ll find it meaningful.
What questions do you have about setting intentions can how do you think it can help you moving forward? I look forward to digging deeper in this conversation with you!
To everyone who has visited this space during the four weeks of our Rest Retreat, thank you for your time. To everyone who has taken part in this journey, if even in some small way, thank you for your energy. I hope it was meaningful for you. To everyone who has taken an extra step to share part(s) of their experience here, thank you for being brave. Vulnerability and connection is what made this retreat possible, and I could not have done any of it without you. I am going to do a follow up of how I plan on incorporating social media back into the rhythm of my days at some point, and feel free to share your plan or path, but for now, I’ll leave you with a blessing for a new beginning and a big virtual bear hug!
In out-of-the-way places of the heart,
Where your thoughts never think to wander,
This beginning has been quietly forming,
Waiting until you were ready to emerge.
For a long time it has watched your desire,
Feeling the emptiness growing inside you,
Noticing how you willed yourself on,
Still unable to leave what you had outgrown.
It watched you play with the seduction of safety
And the gray promises that sameness whispered,
Heard the waves of turmoil rise and relent,
Wondered would you always live like this.
Then the delight, when your courage kindled,
And out you stepped onto new ground,
Your eyes young again with energy and dream,
A path of plenitude opening before you.
Though your destination is not yet clear
You can trust the promise of this opening;
Unfurl yourself into the grace of beginning
That is at one with your life’s desire.
Awaken your spirit to adventure;
Hold nothing back, learn to find ease in risk;
Soon you will be home in a new rhythm,
For your soul senses the world that awaits you.
John O’Donohue To Bless the Space Between
With teary-eyes and so much care,
And if you care to…